Every year, a new dating site with a dedicated application for iPhone and Android is seeing the light, and with over 45 similar platforms that both men and women use, it’s not a surprise to find emails from these dating sites in your husband’s email inbox. So, like millions of users in the US and all over the world, spam can get into anyone’s Gmail or any other email provider account, but there are some reasons for that, and in this guide, we’ll be talking about the possible reasons for a married man or anyone else engaged in a relationship to receive all sorts of adult messages or emails coming from dating websites like POP, Tinder, etc…
Why a married man gets emails from dating Apps?
Your husband is secretly using the site
Once you have doubts that your husband is cheating, that won’t make things looks as they’re and that’s because of many psychological effects, we are all human, and we can struggle with it, that’s our nature in the end. Once we have that feeling, everything the partner does will look like a hint of an affair, when the truth is different. On the other side, your feeling can tell you in many ways if he still uses those dating sites secretly and keeps his profiles hidden.
Some dating sites send promotional offers to their users from time to time, and if your spouse is still active a lot, he’ll get too many profiles as new suggestions, these ladies and girls match with his profile and the application wants to make him using the site again, and possibly buy a membership plan or upgrade, or maybe post a reply to someone’s message on these sites.
You can’t tell for sure the truth, but if see emails talking about interactions on the dating site with other girls, then, he’s still using the site secretly. When someone is using a dating site and still active on it, he can get emails like “the girl (name) has replied to your message, please check it and reply”, or maybe, “your profile has been updated”, these kinds of emails tell you that the man is updating his details and logged on the dating site, in other words, he’s still active.
To verify if your man is really still active on these dating sites or not, take a few moments and try to check any of the emails he received. If that’s not possible, don’t worry, it’s just a step that’s not mandatory but it can help. See what’s name in the email content, can you see your husband’s real name on that email? Is there any picture as a profile photo? Or maybe there is a username that the site is using as a unique ID for that user?
Now, if there is a username on that email, you can easily see if there is a dating account on other platforms or not. Sometimes, one username could hide multiple dating accounts on other sites and apps you never knew existing.
He used dating sites in the past
If your man registered for dating sites in the past before you met, probably the website is still using his email for marketing purposes. In fact, some popular dating websites including Match.com, Plenty Of Fish, eHarmony, and Badoo try to keep their users active, and by encouraging members to check out their best matches that the system found, they can make things better for them commercially.
If there is any dating profile associated with your husband’s name, tell him to contact the company behind to remove him from the marketing list and completely delete the account. That can work, nevertheless, if the email has been shared in data breaches, then, it’s better to filter those spam messages.
On iPhone for example, you can open your best app you use to send emails, then, look for “Settings” and apply the filter you want to stop getting emails from dating sites. Meanwhile, if that does not work and your spouse received all sorts of spam from other dating networks, then, it’s better to report them as spam and contact the website behind, simply, your husband can tell them in a phrase or two he’s not interested anymore in any dating services and they should remove him from the list.
These are random spam emails
We don’t assume that everyone who gets emails from different dating sites is really a used on these platforms, however, things might be different from a person to another one. If a boyfriend is flirting with other girls then, he’ll use a local dating site that will send him new pictures and messages from girls, however, that can also happen for a married man who never used such sites.
Once you see adult emails in your spouse’s Gmail account, try opening any of them just to see what’s inside, if it’s a spam email, you’ll find it with a random name or even without any personalization. That’s the kind of telemarketing spam that Chinese companies and even others from Europe and the USA use.
In other cases, these emails contain bad pictures that no one wants to receive, especially in a serious relationship, and of course, these are not real girls that your husband knew or even talked to, but scammers (who may be guys or females) who want to attract men by these photos, and guess what? They might found his email like many others on blogs, forms posts, social media, or by hacking.
In all these situations, your husband is not cheating and he only gets these emails from fake dating sites that do not exist, so, be careful with these sites, and never even click on any of their links on emails.
Personally, I know many guys who received hundreds of spam dating emails every month, and many tried to block every one of these messages without any luck. These robots find always a way to use another fake email address to resend the same message or modify it automatically to the same list of contacts that keeps growing and that may be frustrating for many, that’s why I recommend to neglect them completely as Google will delete the spam contact after 30 days or so.
He never used any dating app
This is the third possibility in which, thousands of people find themselves in trouble dealing with such a huge number of spam emails from sites they never used or subscribed for. Don’t be surprised to know that by typing your personal email into any of the services like Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or other apps even if that’s used for shopping or learning things, people can sell the database of names and emails to third parties companies, and that can be serious phishing and email scams, etc…
What’s even surprising is that so many companies get these emails from well-known sites like social media and blogs after a hack, that happens on the regular Internet or on the dark web when bad guys could sell someone’s contact details for a cost. Other companies and telemarketing agencies can bombard people with all types of annoying emails with offers, texts, and photos.
From the above details, you can see that once you find emails from dating sites in your husband’s email, you have to verify that first before assuming he’s cheating or meeting with girls on your back.
In most cases, spammers could get into his email address and send all the types of spam messages day after another.
On the other hand, you have the real dating sites that will do their best to keep users active ever after deleting their accounts, so, always look for details like usernames or numbers mentioned on that email and try to find the truth with a lookup tool that searches all the dating sites at the same time like Google without registration and find users by their name or details, that can also help in telling your other details.